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* 17 by the victims in the course of their interaction with a narcissistic partner, alongside diagnosis and underscoring of the reality principle in the mental life of the patient, as part of the process of rehabilitative separation and renewal of self . The key issues are : The ability to pinpoint the absence of boundaries between the patient and the narcissist . 1 approach by educators in the communal education system and related kibbutz concepts ) ( An ability is required to set boundaries to the narcissistic personality, alongside boundaries to the self of the victim . This is done through intensified awareness of the victim's real need from the narcissistic figure . It will thus be possible to release the patient from the symbiotic vice that characterizes the relationship with the narcissist ( the kibbutz educational approach ) or, in short, from the experience of "if I do not belong to him, I am his enemy" . It should be borne in mind that the patient will be able to set boundaries for the symbiotic narcissist as well as for himself – such a change taking place only if he is aware of the problem posed by the absence of such boundaries . In parallel, the therapist must provide support and encouragement, enabling the patient to demonstrate initiative and creativity in his attempts at cultivating his true inner self . If successful, his sense of achievement and self - confidence will be boosted and his stature grow once separated from his symbiotic connections . Remediation of guilt and dissatisfaction in victims of relationships with narcissistic . 2 personalities Victims of relationships with narcissists frequently ask themselves a question that remains typically latent : "Who was wrong in the relationship that failed ? I ? He ? " However, instead of dwelling on questions of this type, a better course would be to ask : "What was wrong in the relationship ? " In pursuing such an inquiry, the feeling on the part of the patient that he is "deficient" will lose its potency, while he will at the same time realize that it was only a consequence of the relationship in which he was entangled . Assistance to the patient in developing feelings towards himself as well as towards . 3 others who have not been in a relationship with him An additional aim in working with victims of interaction with narcissists is inculcation of the ability to "see myself and my needs" . The sensation experienced by these victims is invariably about being "invisible", one that tends to be internalized and egosyntonic . New identity and self - image templates can be formed in the framework of therapy, which are separate and allow the victim to both detach himself from an injurious relationship and open up to new relations, whether social or intimate .
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אדמוני, אריאל
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