Part One – Life | 202 However, nowadays that the erusin and nisuin are carried out together, surely the cautions of Shulhan Arukh should seriously be taken into account . r . Sofer continues ( pp . 11 - 12 ) to explain that since most marriages begin with a shiduch, betrothal ceremony ( in accordance with Bt Kiddushin 12 b, Maimonides, Hilkhot Ishut 3 : 21 ) , it is the shiduch that is considered the “beginning”, and not the subsequent ceremonies . Consequently, one need not read Shulhan Arukh’s caution in this case . and indeed it was the custom in ashkenaz to have weddings on Wednesday . 2 ON tHE raMIFICatIONS OF a FrIDaYWEDDING . 2 In Vol . 1 pp . 171 - 178, we discussed at length the ashkenazi custom of holding weddings on Friday, its sources and socio - economic causes, “to reduce the expenses of the wedding” ( p . 175 ) . Here Ishould like to add some additional information on this subject . the phenomenon of a Friday wedding ( for widows ) is already hinted at in Pt Ketubot 1 : ...
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